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Frankie Chocolate's avatar

Nicely done. I liked the part about for the first time using actual looked at the guy, not just got swept up w emotions or fear.

Same thing w moi. Married now 43 years, 4 kids 11 grandkids.

It’s a good life.

Thanks Jesus for turning me around.

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

You and your husband ended up being a good match. I'm sure you're grateful that this book was put in your path to read. Bad boyfriends sounds like an intriguing topic. I'd like to contribute to that chapter 🤣

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Linda Hoenigsberg's avatar

I'd love that! Let's talk about it!

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Constance Ford's avatar

So interesting (and familiar) to me! In my church, sanctification was considered a "second work of grace" (something that happened in a particular moment) which would then lead to continuing growth in God. Not sure if that was different for you? Your question about whether we are expecting too much from the wounded men around us is interesting too. In my mind, evangelicalism (and the patriarchy) are indeed bad in many ways for men even though it puts them "in charge." Thanks for continuing to write these thought-provoking posts, Linda!

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Linda Hoenigsberg's avatar

I think we believed the same...that at the moment of salvation the process of sanctification begins and we continue to grow and mature in Christ. I saw how bad this was for men first hand. They were taught they needed to step up and "lead" the family, but many men are not natural leaders and have no desire to be in that role. Then, when they aren't "spiritual" enough, more conflict in the marriage ensues.

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